How To Find Your Ideal Partner 

These days, the subject of love, relationships and dating is getting increasing coverage as more and more people turn to science: our expectations are nothing like our parents’ or grandparents’ and the old approach of leaving it largely to chance and hormones doesn’t always work.

 Having said that, every now and again, when I mention I offer relationship and dating coaching services, some people smirk, raise their eyebrows or start fidgeting as though they believe it falls into an “adult” category or something equally embarrassing. 

Then I remind them that there are established networks of support for almost every area of our lives. We turn to career advisors when looking for a new job, attend parenting classes, hire business and life coaches, however, quite often very little or no thought goes into choosing the right life partner despite the criticality of this decision for your future (and possibly that of your children).

“Oh, yeah!” is usually their response.

Wellbeing doesn’t just mean being healthy, it’s also the state of your mind and how you feel about your life in general, and what is love/relationship if not a huge component of our wellbeing? 

I am Mila Smith, and as you’ve already gathered, I am a certified Relationship and Dating Coach. Having honed my relationship management capabilities in the corporate world for 25 years, I now apply my skills to consult men and women in the field about which I’m absolutely passionate to help them find the love they deserve and build a happy healthy relationship.

I also have something unique not every relationship consultant can offer: empathy… Years ago, I was a single mum with a questionable relationship track record; I used to think I was unlucky until I worked out it had nothing to do with luck and everything to do with my choices.

Meanwhile, my now husband was halfway through a divorce, while dipping his toes in the treacherous waters of dating, asking himself a similar question: “What am I doing wrong?”

​It’s not just about falling in love or getting involved for the sake of being married – anyone can do that. It’s about understanding yourself and your needs, discovering your ideal partner and maintaining a great relationship which feels natural. Don’t buy into old myths: love doesn’t have to hurt, and relationship aren’t supposed to feel as though you’re pulling teeth…

What Does a Relationship Coach Do?

​Most importantly, what can I do for you?

Throughout my life and career, I’ve been surrounded by women and men either suffering the pain of breakups, or getting increasingly frustrated with “rocky relationships” and the modern dating scene, which at first glance, offers you a multitude of possible matches until you realize it’s an illusion of abundance as, on closer inspection, most of them are unsuitable or unavailable.  

​That is why I am here to help clients avoid the pitfalls and find lasting happiness. Working with me you can:

• detach from your emotional baggage and feel excited about love again…
• learn to identify red flags and incompatible people…
• improve your self-esteem and bring out the best version of you…
• discover how to find an ideal partner, nurture a new relationship…
• and much more…

If you’re planning to run a marathon, what do you do? You arrange training with a qualified coach even though, technically, you’re capable of running. When it comes to dating and relationships, you can enlist the same kind of help you would receive if you were trying to accomplish something in any other pursuit at which you aren’t an expert.

So, do you really want to do it right this time around?

Is There a Difference Between a Dating and a Relationship Coach?

I cover both areas, yet I prefer the latter definition because “relationship” is a much broader term. It includes the most important relationship you will encounter in your lifetime: your relationship with yourself.

Once you’ve mastered that relationship, everything else will fall into place, including a relationship with your potential significant other. Dating is only one of the components of relationship coaching albeit a very important one. 

What Is the Difference Between a Relationship Coach and a Therapist? 

Both coaching and therapy use ongoing 1:1 confidential interactions; both work with clients who want to change and/or achieve something. However, therapy tends to focus more on overcoming past trauma and issues; understanding how you came to be the way you are.

A relationship coach identifies and describes current problematic behaviours, but tends to focus on results, actions and goals: while psychology explains human mind and behaviour and identifies challenges, coaching offers you practical strategies to overcome them.

NB: marriage counselling or couples therapy is a specific area – I don’t work with couples. My motto is: “The best time to work on a relationship is before it begins”

 What do I mean by that? When people fall into relationships blindly and end up married or with children before really getting to know their partner, they often discover they aren’t well suited, and the struggle begins…

I like a metaphor with Cinderella’s glass slipper: if it doesn’t fit, it’s practically impossible to make it fit no matter how hard you try. Sadly, this is when many people find their relationships are falling apart. 

Back to my point: you find yourself in an advantageous position while you’re still single and unattached because you have the opportunity to start with a clean slate and focus on finding your ideal life partner.

Why Hire a Relationship Coach? 

• You’re divorced or in the process of getting divorced or separating from your long-term partner. Whether it was a welcome change or a shock, you’re likely to be at the mercy of mixed emotions ranging from grief and hate to excitement. No matter how unsettled you might be feeling at this moment, rest assured, you can find love and happiness again and reinvent yourself in the process…

• You’re a single parent, you had your fingers burned in the past, you’re juggling work, family and a very fragile relationship with your ex (the mother or the father of your children). You want to be happy again, but you’re terrified of upsetting the balance and have no idea how to approach dating…
• You might be lacking confidence due to some underlying challenges. Whether you are only considering dating, or have been doing it, unsuccessfully, for a while and feel like giving, you must be looking at happy couples all around you and wondering why it’s not working out for you…

If any of this sounds familiar, I’ve got great news! I can help you transform your love life and will share a roadmap to a happy healthy relationship. 

Does Relationship Coaching Work? 

I can only speak for myself: it works 100%, if you have an open mind and are prepared to re-examine your approach. It’s not likely to work, if you think you already know everything or refuse to step outside your comfort zone.

There’s a lot of conflicting dating and relationship advice out there, but you can be confident in my skills and expertise as I’ve been trained by one of the world’s most trusted relationship experts.* Our science-based relationship and dating coaching method is built on a ground-breaking 25-year study of marriage, divorce and new love. No pseudo-science or crystal ball gazing, no false claims.

 ​​​​​* Dr. Terri Orbuch Ph.D. aka The Love Doctor®

How Can We Work Together?  

I offer a FREE confidential 30-minute introductory session in which we discuss your situation. If you’re ready to take charge of your love life today, click here to book. 

​What if you can’t afford coaching or can’t bear the thought of opening up to a stranger? 

“From Single to Couple” is a step-by-step “DIY” dating and relationship advice video course created by my husband and me to give everyone an affordable alternative. The course is obviously more generic and parts of it may not apply to your individual situation. In the meantime, being a couple is our secret weapon and a unique advantage giving you both male and female insights at the same time.

Written by: Mila Smith

After 25 years in the corporate world, I decided to dedicate my time to the field about which I’m absolutely passionate: helping women and men, as a certified Relationship & Dating Coach, find the love they deserve and discover how to build great relationships. Given my vast experience working with people from all walks of life and various cultural backgrounds, you can always count on empathy, understanding and meaningful insights. 

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