Hey, beautiful people! Let’s talk about relationships – the thrilling roller coaster rides that they are. We’ve all had our hearts broken a few too many times, and let’s face it, it can be downright painful, even more than we’d like to admit.

But here’s the thing – we don’t have to play the victim card. Sure, there’s often something the other person did that hurt us, but let’s not forget that we hold the power of choice in every situation. It’s time to take charge and stop being our own heartbreakers!

Here are five fab ways to do just that:

1. Stop Assuming, Start Communicating: Oh, assumptions, the silent heartbreakers! We’ve all been there, right? Instead of jumping to conclusions and assuming things about the other person, why not have a good old-fashioned heart-to-heart chat? Don’t let your mind play tricks on you; ask questions, share your feelings, and clarify where you both stand.
   
   Imagine this: You’ve been seeing someone for a few weeks, and things seem to be going great. But then, they start becoming a little distant, and you can’t help but assume they’ve lost interest. Your mind starts racing with thoughts like, “They must be seeing someone else,” or “Maybe I did something wrong.”
   
   Instead of spiraling into a frenzy of assumptions, take a deep breath and pick up that phone! Why don’t you give them a call or maybe plan a cozy coffee date? Open up those lines of communication, folks! You could say something like, “Hey, I’ve noticed you seem a bit distant lately, and I wanted to check in with you. Is everything alright?”
   
   By having that heart-to-heart chat, you’ll get to the bottom of things and clear up any misunderstandings. Maybe they’ve been going through a tough time at work or worried about something entirely unrelated to your relationship. Communicating openly brings you closer and helps build trust and understanding. So, remember, assumptions can be relationship wreckers, but communication is the secret sauce that keeps love cooking!

2. Live in the Present, Not the Future: Oh, guilty as charged! We all have that inner dreamer who loves to paint pictures of a fairy-tale future where everything’s just perfect. You know, the one where you and your partner ride off into the sunset on a unicorn, living happily ever after.
   
   But here’s the reality check: While it’s fun to dream, keeping one foot planted firmly in the present is equally important. Imagine this scenario: You meet someone new, and sparks fly like fireworks on the Fourth of July. They’re charming, and you can’t help but see a potential future together. But there’s just one tiny catch – they’re not so great at returning calls or texts promptly.
   
   Instead of brushing off those red flags like confetti, take a step back and see the situation for what it is. Don’t let the dream of a perfect future blind you to what’s happening right now. It’s time to remove those rose-tinted glasses and focus on the reality before you.
   
   By paying attention to the present and acknowledging any warning signs, you’ll make decisions based on what’s happening, not just wishful thinking.

3. Shh, Keep It to Yourself: We all love spilling the tea to our besties, but not every little relationship thing needs to be public knowledge.
   
   Imagine this: You’ve got a hot new date, and it feels like fireworks and rainbows. Of course, you want to share it with the world and plaster their face all over your socials. But hold up a sec! Have you really figured everything out yet? Doubts, anyone?
   
   Now, here’s the scoop: When you spill every little detail, your friends and followers jump in with their thoughts. Some are cool, but others get all up in your biz, and that’s when drama hits the stage.
   
   So, why not keep certain stuff just between you two? It’s like creating your secret clubhouse of trust and intimacy. You can be yourselves without the whole world staring, and that’s where the magic happens!

4. Ex, No Way: Ah, the dreaded ex! They’re exes for a reason, right? So why do we keep revisiting that old territory? Yes, being single might feel like a bummer sometimes, but returning to an ex is like hitting the rewind button on a broken record. Break that pattern, folks, and make space for something new and exciting to waltz into your life.

5. Divine Timing, Trust It: Okay, I get it. Patience isn’t everyone’s strong suit (I’m guilty of this one too!), but let’s have a little faith in the universe, shall we? Things happen when they’re meant to, like a beautiful cosmic dance! Keep moving forward, taking action, and believing that the universe has your back. So, whether you’re single or mingling, the right time will come; when it does, it’ll be magical!

There you have it, dear friends! These five strategies are powerful tools to free yourself from the cycle of self-inflicted heartbreak. Embrace open communication, focus on the present, cherish the sanctity of certain aspects of your relationship, bid farewell to past flames, and place your faith in the universe’s guiding hand. Now, venture forth and allow love’s enchanting radiance to illuminate your path! You possess the strength and resilience to conquer it all! 

About the Author

Kshama Singhi is a Jay Shetty Certified Empowerment Coach with over 12 years of experience in the healthcare industry. Drawing from her personal journey of overcoming relationship challenges and self-development, Kshama specialises in helping women navigate emotional hardships and relationship issues. As a no-nonsense coach, she empowers her clients to overcome their internal distractions and limitations to reach their full potential.

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