You open your phone to check the time; however, ten minutes later, you continue to scroll through endless feeds, with your shoulders tensed and unable to identify what you were searching for. Or, you see a small red badge on an application and feel a slight drop in your stomach before opening the application. Moments such as these seem minor and are easily dismissed. However, the steady hum of anxiousness surrounding our electronic devices is deserving of your awareness.
A majority of individuals exist in a perpetual state of communication via messages, alerts, and/or expectantly awaiting a prompt response to each message. As soon as you begin to realize the consistent expectations of your devices, both online and offline, you will understand the term ‘digital anxiety’. Digital anxiety represents the anxiety or apprehensive feelings associated with our online interactions, including but not limited to notifications, group conversations, and/or e-mail in-boxes which appear to grow endlessly. Digital anxiety is not indicative of a lack of technical proficiency, nor is it indicative of poor decision-making skills. Rather, it is a typical human reaction to the constant requests for your attention.
Digital anxiety typically goes unnoticed. It generally exists internally as part of your daily behaviors and therefore you may not immediately associate the behaviors with your digital anxiety. To recognize digital anxiety patterns is the initial step towards becoming more stable, and I am pleased to report that identification does not require any specialized resources. All that is required is that you honestly observe.
Many people experience their greatest levels of stress related to their online interactions via their email. Upon accessing your e-mail account, you experience a wave of dread and subsequently close the application without reviewing a single message. Your unread message count increases, as does the level of guilt experienced by avoiding these communications. Many individuals develop their own internal cycle regarding their unread messages. Some readers may also be experiencing heightened levels of discomfort due to various forms of attention deficits. Identifying the patterns behind a fear of emails could provide clarity for readers interested in understanding how their attentional abilities interact with excessive amounts of messages received via email.
Quiet signals embedded in your daily routines
Your anxiety may manifest prior to your ability to consciously acknowledge it as anxiety. There are several times throughout the day that you may find yourself repeatedly checking the same application without having determined the reasoning behind your actions. Alternatively, you may draft a response, erase it, rewrite it, and remain uncertain. Other individuals may maintain dozens of applications open across multiple browsers because they perceive closing the browsers as relinquishing control. Conversely, others may abstain from using certain applications altogether and allow their messages to accumulate until the thought of responding to them creates undue mental distress.
Regardless of whether these individualized habits are significant individually or collectively, they create identifiable patterns. Your reliance upon your mobile device develops into a habitual reflexive action based on anxious anticipation, and the perceived necessity of remaining connected to the world beyond your immediate surroundings results in diminished returns relative to the amount of energy expended.
Patterns exhibited physically and emotionally
Stress generated by screen activity does not remain contained in your thoughts. Typically, it manifests physiologically. Examples include catching yourself breathing shallowly while processing messages or developing a habitually clenched jaw when receiving notifications related to work during off-duty hours. Another indicator of potential anxiety related to screen activities includes sleep disturbances. Many people recognize this phenomenon as they scroll through their mobile device(s) late into the night and ultimately lie awake with a preoccupied mind.
There is research-based evidence supporting the notion that excessive/compulsive engagement in digital media coincides with increased stress levels. Studies examining adolescents diagnosed with Attention Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD), for example, demonstrated correlations between problematic Internet usage and higher social anxiety scores and lower overall mood scores. While this research specifically examines adolescents with ADHD, it supports many people’s intuitive experiences: when we establish strained relationships with our screen-based technologies, our emotional stability and quality of sleep are affected as well.
Reasons for developing these patterns
Helpfully, it is essential to recognize that no one develops these types of patterns because they are weak-willed. Applications are created to attract users back, and contemporary society frequently rewards users for always being accessible. Furthermore, the societal expectations placed upon users to rapidly respond to inquiries; remain informed about current events; and continually engage in ongoing conversations contribute to transforming what was once considered a useful resource into a source of pressure.
Another factor contributing to the development of these patterns is attention deficit/hyperactivity disorder (ADD/ADHD). Individuals who currently exhibit ADD/ADHD symptoms are capable of utilizing significantly greater portions of their cognitive capacity simultaneously than non-symptomatic individuals. Therefore, it is likely that when symptomatic individuals receive excessive amounts of e-mail or notifications (e.g., instant messaging apps), they will experience significantly greater anxiety levels than non-symptomatic individuals. Each unread item requires an additional cognitive loop for the user to process and resolve the issue. Cognitive loops are exhausting. By recognizing this aspect of your experience with technology, you can reduce your self-criticism regarding your digital literacy skills and replace it with understanding that you are merely overwhelmed by the sheer quantity of demands placed upon you.
Simple methods for identifying your personal patterns
Awareness is necessary for positive change; yet, it does not require drastic changes to your entire digital existence. Awareness can initiate small steps forward. For several days, observe the times you reach for your phone without determining what you plan to accomplish with it. Observe how you felt both before and after reaching for it. Writing down a brief description of your findings in either paper form or on your phone will enable you to discover patterns that would have gone unobserved had you continued to ignore them.
One way to maintain awareness is to track only one behavior at a time. For instance, you might observe how frequently you access your company-provided e-mail account outside working hours; or how your body reacts after sleeping for an hour if you immediately access your mobile device.
Observations made regarding small aspects of your behavior are much more practical than broad statements regarding your digital habits. Additionally, small observations are much simpler to maintain.
Identifying areas of potential structure
When you recognize your patterns, many small adjustments will occur naturally. Many individuals implement designated times for responding to messages rather than being readily available all day long. Other individuals remove stress-inducing applications from their primary display area, disable unnecessary alerts, or refrain from placing their phones in proximity to their beds at bedtime. The objective is not to disconnect completely from technology; rather, it is to place some distance between you and the continuous draw, allowing you to regain control over your attentiveness.
Do not attempt to make radical changes at once. Begin with implementing one quiet hour per day (e.g., one hour in the evening); or eliminate checking your inbox prior to eating breakfast in the morning. One quiet hour or eliminating checking your inbox prior to eating breakfast in the morning can positively impact the remainder of the day.
Progression in terms of reducing stress generated by screen usage is rarely the result of discipline. Positive progression occurs when you design your daily routines in such a manner that they demand less from your nerves.
Recognizing stress resulting from screen usage is not intended to produce an additional source of concern. Recognizing stress produced by screen usage is intended to aid you in observing what has occurred thus far, allowing you to treat yourself more kindly. Once you acknowledge your feelings regarding your screen usage, most people will find that acknowledging their feelings reduces the negative effects of those feelings. Ultimately, small, consistent decisions regarding technology will assist in creating a calm relationship with technology that becomes an everyday habit rather than a goal for achieving balance in life.
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If you or someone you love is in crisis, call 911 or go to the nearest emergency room. You can also call or text 988, or chat via 988lifeline.org to reach the Suicide & Crisis Lifeline. Support is free, confidential, and available 24/7.
Author Bio
Earl Wagner is a health content strategist focused on behavioural systems, clinical communication, and data-informed healthcare education.
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