Suffering Isn’t Out There — It Lives in Unconsciousness
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- December 30, 2025
We have been taught to become our own greatest saboteur by giving the mind executive control. It edits, distorts, and overlays reality with the past, projections of the future, and stories about who we think we are. The majority of the world lives unconsciously, believing the mind is reality. It is a reality — but one that is delusional and fraught with difficulty.
The “problems” we experience don’t come from life itself. They arise from unconsciousness — from our unawareness of the power we have to consciously create possibilities, or unconsciously destroy them. We’ve been conditioned to misidentify what a problem actually is, and to conclude that absolutely everything that isn’t working must be “fixed.”
But not everything in life is meant to be fixed.
There’s a difference between fixing a computer, an accounting spreadsheet, or a car — and “fixing” a relationship, raising children, or creating more money in your life. Fixing a computer requires a specific, learned skill set. It’s logical, fixed, and contained. You identify the faulty component and replace it — or throw it out and get a new one. Relationships, sex, and money, on the other hand, don’t work that way. They require to be created, not fixed. They demand constant presence, awareness of nuance, sensitivity to what’s happening now — not a cookie-cutter solution pulled from the past.
Most of us believe our suffering comes from what happens out there — other people, circumstances, work, money, relationships. But suffering doesn’t come from events themselves. It comes from unconsciousness — from our presumptions, our reactions, our need to control, to ignore, to be right, not wrong. These are all unconscious choices. They arise from conditioned concepts that function like algorithms: fixed, predictable. We live on autopilot, thinking we are making conscious decisions — but they are programmed choices drawn from an incredibly limited menu.
We live from conclusions, not curiosity or questioning. And conclusions are closed circuits. They shut down awareness. They make us certain, rigid, defensive. Take a moment and recall the last hour. How many times did you lose presence and disappear into your head, forgetting you even had a body? Replaying the past. Projecting the future. Narrating, judging, imagining. To one degree or another, we’ve all been conditioned to be Walter Mittys — living more in our minds than truly creating and fully living our lives.
Now, hold out your hands. Feel the energy of aliveness vibrating through them. Everything on the planet is vibrating as energy — a tree, a song, a thought. It is the force that drives the planet, that grows a baby in the womb, that powers a bee in flight. It is the energy of life, and we know it intimately.
Energy is actually our first language — we are born being it, engaging with it. Yet we have been conditioned out of recognising it, even made to feel wrong for noticing it. That’s because we are conditioned in judgment — no one wants you to perceive what they judge in themselves, or what they are judging in you. We live as if life is only what our minds tell us it is, missing the currents of vitality. All energies affect other energies — we are deeply interconnected. Ever seen a video of a frog croaking and the water vibrating? The ripples move in a beautiful, intricate pattern. You can see it with sound, but we don’t need sound to know that everything vibrates at its own frequency — subtle or intense, yet always alive.
Energy is profoundly practical. It’s the language of our very being, our bodies, our environments, our relationships. Long before we think, we sense it. Long before we compute or analyse, we know. A baby will cry when its mother is tense or fearful. It knows energy. It learned it in the womb. A mother’s experience was the baby’s experience — there was no separation, only resonance. You know energy. You sense it when you walk into a room — whether the atmosphere is light or heavy. You sense it when you speak with your family, picking up approval or disapproval on the other end of the phone — without a single word being spoken.
This is how we were designed to truly create — moment by moment, through energy. Every interaction, every question, is powerful beyond belief — and most of us have no idea. We are energy. When we function only as a concept, we slow ourselves down to less than half alive. But when we embrace awareness of us as energy, and are present, we awaken fully to life — moment by moment.
Ready to wake up and start truly living? Here are some ways to begin:
Question every single thing you believe is true.
Ask, Is this a conclusion?
Where did I learn this? Is it really true?
Notice how long you can stay aware of two parts of your body — maybe your feet and your tummy —
along with your breathing.
When you lose that awareness, you are in your head. Bring yourself present.
And above all, have fun with it. Curiosity, playfulness, tenacity are your keys to waking up: to being conscious, moment by moment, to the life you were truly born to live.
Reference: Access Consciousness
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Moira Bramley is a meditation practitioner and teacher with over 25 years of experience in anthropology, energy work, and consciousness. Her journey began with the profound question: What exactly consti- tutes a lack of awareness? And what does consciousness truly give us? Moira’s mission is to raise consciousness on the planet, helping others understand that they can create the space and presence accessed in meditation as a full-time reality.
