From fearful to fulfilled! Confidence coaching for women

A woman’s life journey has never been an easy one: biological changes are just part of it and unavoidable. Other challenges are relatively new.

Modern life brings added struggles. These might include feeling that we should be the best at everything we do, appearing to ‘have it all’ – career, children, property, an enviable lifestyle and so on. With all of these often self-created and conflicting pressures it’s no surprise that our confidence and self-esteem can take a hit. Many are left with a sense of fearfulness and inadequacy.

Most women will experience at least one of these feelings at some stage, the most commonly reported being:

• Feeling that we never do right for our babies/children.
• A pressure to go back to full time work after maternity leave. Realising that things have changed in our absence. We need to catch up in a short space of time.
• Self-doubt due to unexpected ill-health or through caring for someone with long-term health issues.
• Older children leaving home; we might feel that a large part of our identity is missing with nothing meaningful to replace it.
• Losing someone dear to us or going through a separation/divorce. Feelings of guilt, anger and grief can deplete our emotional energy reserves leaving us prey to self-doubt.
• The menopause can create many changes in our bodies. Altered mood, memory and libido can all shake our confidence, leaving us feeling significant loss on many levels.

We can take steps to improve how we feel about ourselves and thereby start the journey towards self-awareness and realising of our valuable goals. We have the tools and often need only access them. Below is a possible way to begin this process.

Easy tips to help increase your confidence and self-esteem

• Use positive affirmations. These are encouraging sentences or phrases which you repeat to yourself. They can be focussed on health, relationships or personal goals for example, and can have a transformational effect on your subconscious.
• Be kind to yourself. We give a great deal to others and tend to forget ourselves! Allow some real ‘me time’ by going for a walk, having a massage, taking up yoga or meditation.
• Focus on what you want to change and how this can be achieved.
• Reflecting on events with negative associations, fears about what might happen in the future or events in the past are unhelpful. Mindfulness practice can help you stay in the present.
• Avoid comparing yourself to others. Your unique value has nothing to do with how you look against others.
• Keep a daily journal. Record events and how you feel. This can help you gain insight into patterns and tendencies you might be unaware of.

When reading this you might recognise some of your own struggles. Many of these affect us all from time to time even though we are all able and successful. Despite all we’ve achieved we can still feel anxious and uncertain of our ability to adapt to change.

From the individuals I’ve worked with and the transformations they’ve brought about I’m certain that everyone can make changes. Changes that will build confidence, strength and self-awareness.

About me, and how I work

Hello, I’m Esmeralda, an established international Holistic Health and Confidence Coach and Reiki Practitioner. With a combined five years’ experience in these fields, my style of coaching has produced profound results in my clients.

Loss, disappointment, changes in health and wellbeing are part of life’s course. As a health professional, an important skill lies in my ability to use my own difficult experiences to relate to and support you. Extensive training has turned these into valuable tools that can be used to help others. There can be no understanding or progress without this.

Through helping you clarify your goals, finding out what might be holding you back, pinpointing where improvements might be made, we work together in a safe and trusting environment allowing you to emerge triumphant, free from fear and self-doubt.

Vitally, you remain in control of your outcomes. I assist, guide, steer and encourage and together we see how best you can realise them. We look at possible obstacles – time constraints, deeper reasons creating impediments, for example. This is a supportive and non-judgmental environment, encouraging and sometimes challenging.

You can experience remarkable change, new ways of achieving what you want and a sense of self-assurance that might take you aback. These new skills and changes to your outlook can allow you to grow to be your best ever self.

Among all the goals modern life dictates to us and what our peers might be doing, this is something wholly worthwhile and incredibly satisfying. Allow me to start the journey with you.

For more information please visit www.esmeraldatherapies.com or email
info @esmeraldatherapies.com