There’s a moment in healing that no one talks about — when everything feels worse before it feels better. The tears come unexpectedly. The body aches. Old memories resurface. You question everything. And in that moment, it’s easy to think, “Something must be wrong with me.”
But what if you’re not falling apart?
What if this is what rebuilding actually feels like?
We’ve been taught to associate growth with forward motion — with motivation, productivity, and positivity. But the truth is, real healing often looks messy. It’s forgetting things, sleeping more, crying over things you thought you buried. It’s your body clearing the weight of everything you once held in silence.
Emotional healing doesn’t follow a straight line. Sometimes it feels like one step forward, two steps back. But what’s really happening is release. All the pain, pressure, and trauma you stored is finally being allowed to leave — and that exit can be loud. It can look like fatigue, sadness, irritation, even illness.
Your nervous system is resetting. Your cells are recalibrating. That tight chest, those waves of grief, that sudden need for quiet? Those are not signs of weakness — they’re signs that you’re finally listening to what your body has been whispering for years.
Sometimes growth doesn’t look like blooming — it looks like compost. Like breaking down what no longer serves you so something new can rise in its place.
You are not too sensitive. You’re not broken. You’re not back at square one.
You’re shedding.
You’re softening.
You’re healing.
So if today feels like a breakdown, give yourself grace. Step back. Breathe. And remember: when a building shakes during renovation, it doesn’t mean it’s collapsing. It means it’s under construction.
And so are you
